Ione Saffady
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The Perks of Being a Wallflower
Nobody lives forever.
When it’s time for people we care about to die it can be very hard. "The
Perks of Being a Wallflower," by Stephen Chbosky, does a great job dealing
with mature themes like death. Death is something many people go through and in
this book the main character, Charlie experiences death a lot. As much as we are
upset by death we have to pull ourselves together and go on with our life.
Charlie learns this with two people he dearly cared about, Aunt Helen, and
Michael, who was one of Charlie's only friends.
Michael's suicide is
brought up right in the beginning of the book. It's truly heartbreaking to hear
what Charlie has gone through. A specialist talks to people that were close to
Michael to see how they were feeling and possibly to make sure none of them
were thinking of doing the same thing. Charlie was extremely confused, why
wouldn't Michael have talked to him? The specialist said Michael probably had "problems
at home" he didn't feel comfortable talking about which made Charlie
explode. "Then, I started screaming at the guidance counselor that
Michael could have talked to me. And I started crying even harder." As
you can see Charlie took Michael’s death really hard. This is similar to
people in real life, they get upset, confused, and sometimes take their
feelings out on someone else just like Charlie.
However, Michael’s death didn't just affect
him the day Charlie found out. It stayed with him and it probably will forever
because you can't just forget someone that means so much to you. I can tell he
still cares because later in the book, he writes a poem that reflects his true
feelings. The poem is about a boy and how messed up his life is. "And he gave himself an A and a slash on each
wrist and he hung it on the bathroom door because this time he didn't
think he could reach the kitchen."(70) This shows
how Michael’s death has had an impact on Charlie's life. Authors take things
from their lives so it’s possible Charlie has thought of cutting or suicide or possibly even has cut. Either way this proves Charlie is
still in a dark place. It's not like he forgot about Michael because he still
thinks about him but he has done his best to move on.
Charlie has also experienced
the tragic death of his Aunt Helen. Aunt Helen was extremely close with
Charlie, they watched movies together and went to the zoo. Charlie's birthday
is the day before Christmas so most of his relatives bring one present for both
days but Aunt Helen always brought him two. He really loved her. On the day of
his birthday a policeman arrived at the door saying that Aunt Helen had been in
a car accident from the snowy weather and was dead. At first Michael was in
denial he thought the policeman had made a mistake, surely she wasn't dead.
Soon after it hit him. He couldn't help but feel like it was his fault. "And
I know that my Aunt Helen would still be alive today if she bought me one
present like everybody else. She would be alive today if I were born on a day
that didn't snow."(92) Charlie feels like it's his fault Aunt Helen
has died but the reader knows this isn't true. Many people experiencing loss
blame themselves even when it’s not their fault. It's important for Charlie to
move past the day she died so that he can forgive himself.
Because of Aunt Helen's death, at
age seven, Charlie had to go to a hospital until he felt alright again, until
he could even talk. It shows Charlie's birthday, which is also the day Aunt
Helen died, and how depressed he is. "(Mom)'Is it your aunt Helen' It
was the way she said it that started me feeling. ‘Please don't do this to
yourself Charlie.' But I did it to myself. Like I do every year on my birthday.
‘I’m sorry'"(79), This shows how Aunt Helens death affected Charlie
and how because of it on his birthday, a day you’re supposed to celebrate, he
can't let himself be happy. It's such a difficult task to feel okay after
someone dies but Charlie owes it to himself to celebrate his birthday.
In conclusion, Charlie has
lost people that he loved but he can't change the past so he has to forgive
himself and move on. I recently lost a friend named Sammy Cohen Eckstein. It
was difficult on the entire school and I won't ever be able to forget him. At
the same time I know there isn't anything I can do now to change the past and
that I have to move on. It's going to take time but eventually his friends and
family will be able to accept their loss. They wont ever forget him but there
will come a day where they will stop crying. This is similar for Charlie
because everyone needs a little closure. The question nobody can answer, how do
you possibly let go of someone you loved?
*Rest In Peace*